Post by peterh on Jul 30, 2007 21:57:17 GMT
A month ago I got an invitation to a wedding between two people I haven't seen for a long time. That was very surprising as I and three other friends was invited. The group consisted of Mikkel, Piet (roomie), Pm and me.
I understand Piet and Mikkel being invited as they've seen the newlyweds to be way more often than PM and I. I do consider them good people but not more than that so Pia Mia (Pm - best female friend) and I were wondering why we were invited.
Every wedding has a bachelor party and one is held for Peter, who of course deserves it. The tradition is to offer every male friend of the groom invited to the wedding a chance to attend and celebrate. Mikkel and Piet was invited (And Pm is a girl so not invited to the guy thing) but I was not. The best man, Søren, is Peter's brother and is in charge of the party. He knows fully well that I share an apartment with Piet and also that I am invited to the wedding. Nevertheless he called piet and asked him to not only come but also join the planning of the bachelor party - he never called me or said to invite me.
That did surprise me because I know I am not that close with the couple but I was still invited and thought I would be invited to a bachelor party. After all there was no way to hide it from me since my best friend was invited. It never did happen though, and Piet did offer to ask but I thought it would be meaningless since Søren do know my number and still declined to ask.
I've had my doubt wether to read something into this but I just talked to Mikkel and asked in a polite way about it since he, as the toast master, should know about stuff. First time I asked he ignored the subject and just replied with a polite *s'(*s* = smile) and then I asked again and it was the same *s*. A friendly brush off..
Now, I have to answer the invitation tomorrow and I really do not feel like saying yes. I've been in doubt before but now I think I might decline. I might have to work that weekend anyway, and I don't really see the reason to go overboard with changing it (if possible) anyway. I'd just feel a bit left out at the wedding anyway..
Then, anyway, if I am not asked to the bachelor party (and I do believe Peter does have some say in who attends) then why ask me to the wedding at all. I don't particuarly feel good about turining people down but I do start to question the motives...
Anyone has a good argument why I should try the hardest to change my working hours and attend the wedding?
I understand Piet and Mikkel being invited as they've seen the newlyweds to be way more often than PM and I. I do consider them good people but not more than that so Pia Mia (Pm - best female friend) and I were wondering why we were invited.
Every wedding has a bachelor party and one is held for Peter, who of course deserves it. The tradition is to offer every male friend of the groom invited to the wedding a chance to attend and celebrate. Mikkel and Piet was invited (And Pm is a girl so not invited to the guy thing) but I was not. The best man, Søren, is Peter's brother and is in charge of the party. He knows fully well that I share an apartment with Piet and also that I am invited to the wedding. Nevertheless he called piet and asked him to not only come but also join the planning of the bachelor party - he never called me or said to invite me.
That did surprise me because I know I am not that close with the couple but I was still invited and thought I would be invited to a bachelor party. After all there was no way to hide it from me since my best friend was invited. It never did happen though, and Piet did offer to ask but I thought it would be meaningless since Søren do know my number and still declined to ask.
I've had my doubt wether to read something into this but I just talked to Mikkel and asked in a polite way about it since he, as the toast master, should know about stuff. First time I asked he ignored the subject and just replied with a polite *s'(*s* = smile) and then I asked again and it was the same *s*. A friendly brush off..
Now, I have to answer the invitation tomorrow and I really do not feel like saying yes. I've been in doubt before but now I think I might decline. I might have to work that weekend anyway, and I don't really see the reason to go overboard with changing it (if possible) anyway. I'd just feel a bit left out at the wedding anyway..
Then, anyway, if I am not asked to the bachelor party (and I do believe Peter does have some say in who attends) then why ask me to the wedding at all. I don't particuarly feel good about turining people down but I do start to question the motives...
Anyone has a good argument why I should try the hardest to change my working hours and attend the wedding?