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Post by Galadriel on Dec 25, 2007 14:37:33 GMT
I'm heading out for a nice relaxing week at my fathers. Take care you all and don't panic, I'll be back 
Happy New Years everyone!!  
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Post by Elliot Kane on Dec 25, 2007 15:29:02 GMT
Hope you have a great time, Gal  |
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Post by Ubereil on Dec 25, 2007 16:36:21 GMT
Hope you have a great time, Gal Seconed.  Übereil |
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Post by Galadriel on Dec 26, 2007 11:52:48 GMT
Hello everyone, seems i can have access to the chaos at my dads. I really wanted to get something off my chest here.
Last night, christmas day with my family. Got called a dozen of times on my cell and texted too from my soon to be ex husband.
At last my dad took away my cell to give me some peace of mind at the family dinner.
Around 2 am i got a call from someone who told me that ex hubby was in the hostpital half dead.
He cut his wrists, but i called the hospital and the surgeon told me that the cuts looked worse then they were. Just a call for attention.
I have to go now, will update you on more details.
Take care
Gal
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Post by Gay Titan on Dec 26, 2007 12:21:10 GMT
Just remember that you are not responsible for his actions. Obviously, he is having problems and hopefully he is somewhere that can help address that. Realize that you could not have prevented his action. Be strong and know you have friends here.
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Post by Elliot Kane on Dec 26, 2007 13:31:51 GMT
Rodney is absolutely right, of course.
Take care, Gal.
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Post by Gray Lensman on Dec 26, 2007 18:14:42 GMT
That's awful news, Gal. And right over the holidays too.  And yeah, I'll agree that this is his problem, and not your fault in any way. I can at least hope the situation improves and that things resolve well for you. And we're always here if we're needed. Take care and I hope the rest of your holiday goes better for you. |
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Post by Galadriel on Dec 26, 2007 22:56:15 GMT
Thanks guys, i just find it sooo unfair. He brought us more deeper in the problems, all because of his paranoide idea that i will take away my son. He even told his bosses wife that i'm gonna move in with my new boyfriend  He sure knows more then me, cuz I had no idea.
He texted me again, several times today, to tellme i'm a cold hearted [Censored], cuz i didn't respond when he was "dying"  He even managed to talk tomy friend, and now she turned against me so it seems. I asked her to go see him, ask for the keys of the hosue, buy food for my cat and look at the damage of my front door. She did all that, but she also brought him home, wich means the hospital is letting someone out that jsut did and 'attempt' to kill himself. Are they nuts? What if he kills me or my son??
If the cops call me i will tell them that, can't believe they did that!
My friend also cleaned the blood in the kitchen, (that is where it happened) and she said there was alot of blood. I told her they better kept him there, and she replied with, now don't go acting like he's the bad man. Oh sure, this is all my fault i guess? I'm 120km away, i made him drunk and plunched the knife in his arm?
Can't believe this is happeneing to me though, when i see those things on tv, they seem soo far away from me. I'm looking forward to new years eve, but then again, not, cuz I have to go home the next day and face him and his pathetic ways.
If i don't get a job at Modular next month, I wont stay in the city i live now and move closer to my father and sister. Already made up my mind, what he did last night, made me realize i have to make sure there is along distance between us. If i keep living there, he sure will bug me, or even worse, maybe stalk me in the future.
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Post by Elliot Kane on Dec 27, 2007 0:38:42 GMT
Sounds like you should change your phone number too, Gal.
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Post by LaFille on Dec 27, 2007 3:58:02 GMT
Sorry to read that, Gal; what your husband did is certainly not to serve his purpose (or anyone's, for that matter)... I hope that he will receive some pointful care and that you and your son are ok; and that there still be hope that you settle the situation soflty eventually, if the heads can cool off... And I also hope that you three can be well supported around where you are. t's cool that you can stay in touch, at least. |
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Post by peterh on Dec 27, 2007 14:47:45 GMT
This is [Censored]ed up for sure.
Gal, I know you'll make the right choice and this has been some time coming. I also hope you'll be able to soften it all up, as Fille said, and find some solution fast. You're certainly not deserving of what's happening now and neither is your son....
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Post by Alrik on Dec 27, 2007 17:56:31 GMT
I'm very concerned and worried. I see danger in this development.
Be careful, Gal !
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Post by Galadriel on Dec 27, 2007 23:05:22 GMT
Thx Pete and Alrik,
New updates. He called me today, to practically demand me to move out, so he can have his three weeks of unpaid leave from job, to get his life on the tracks again. I explained him in a polite manner, that it's not me that acted foolish and neither has my son. I don't see no reason why we have to move out and get ourself in trouble finding a place, daycare etc so I told him he needs to find himself a new place.
He heard me loud and clearly and I think he realizes he was in no position to argue about it, so he called me back later to tell me he's moving out right now, gonna move in with his sister. He changed the lock of my front door, which was forced by the cops to get in. Also gonna bring me the keys when i return home next week.
About his wrists, my friend went there to look at my cat and she said there was a whole lot of blood, she cleaned it all up, well almsot everthing. There was also a page on google a manual to cut your wrists.  He only forgot to check how long it takes untill you're actually dead. When it didn't go fast enough, he stabbed his arm, but he didn't get to his other arm since his left wasn't able to move anymore. At one point he got scared to die alone, so he called me, but i didn't answer of course, so he called others to come.
Anyway, this has been a week or two from hell for me, I'm glad i came here and i'm also glad i have you guys here at Chaos.
I would come in the chat but i'm on dads computer and he hates it if he sees something installed, like java so i ahve to wait untill i get back.
Take care you all, be nice and thx for your support
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Post by Alrik on Dec 27, 2007 23:18:35 GMT
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Post by Elliot Kane on Dec 28, 2007 2:22:54 GMT
It can be many things, Alrik. Right now it's probably a way to try to drag Gal back rather than a serious effort to kill himself.
Many 'attempted suicides' are nothing but a cry for attention. Obviously I don't know the full details in this case, but it has the hallmarks.
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Post by Alrik on Dec 28, 2007 20:35:59 GMT
I agree Elliot, because I know someone where her husband also did this ...
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Post by Alrik on Dec 30, 2007 0:12:13 GMT
Eh, just wanted to point out to this:
Gal, I believe you might need a third or forth, at least a neutral perso to handlew this. Kind of an mediator or moderator.
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Post by killerzzz on Dec 31, 2007 8:48:14 GMT
Gal, sorry I wasn't here to say this earlier, but I hope all goes as well as it can now. I'm glad you are okay, and that it seems he might finally be accepting the break up.
Killerzzz
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Post by rockergrl on Dec 31, 2007 19:15:31 GMT
Oh my gosh Gal I'm sorry to hear about all this drama! You take care of yourself, and remember we are here for you. *big hugs*
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He sure knows more then me, cuz I had no idea.
He even managed to talk tomy friend, and now she turned against me so it seems. I asked her to go see him, ask for the keys of the hosue, buy food for my cat and look at the damage of my front door. She did all that, but she also brought him home, wich means the hospital is letting someone out that jsut did and 'attempt' to kill himself. Are they nuts? What if he kills me or my son?? 
He only forgot to check how long it takes untill you're actually dead. When it didn't go fast enough, he stabbed his arm, but he didn't get to his other arm since his left wasn't able to move anymore. At one point he got scared to die alone, so he called me, but i didn't answer of course, so he called others to come.
