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Post by Venom65437 on Apr 10, 2008 3:45:55 GMT
Well, you could try playing for the other team...
In all seriousness, don't worry about it. Enjoy getting to spend all your money on you, and doing everything you wanna do when you wanna do it!
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Post by twoheadedragon on Apr 10, 2008 5:11:43 GMT
Enjoy getting to spend all your money on you, and doing everything you wanna do when you wanna do it! Yeah, just try to make the most of you're situation no matter what!
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Post by Ubereil on Apr 10, 2008 11:37:35 GMT
First, let's put things in perspective: When I was 16 I started a part of Swedish school called The Gymnasium (three years, starting in the autumn on the year of your 16-th birthday, ending in the spring-summer of the year of your 19-th birthday), which can be roughly seen as our High School. We still have "classes" at that stage, IE we are part of a group of of pepole (usually roughtly 30 pepole) which who read a load of (american style) classes together. You usually spend a lot of time with this class, and by the end of the third year you usually know most pepole in that class. That was the case with all the other school classes I've been part of (four classes, all for three years. Some pepole overlapped from previous years, so there was a few who was in my class for six years and not only three), and that was the case with most of my (so called) class mates (class mate is the therm for pepole from your class. The therm was probably invented to encourage the pupils to acually BECOME mates with eachother). (A hint to LaFille: footnotes would make this text way more readable. ) But it wasn't the case for me. During the get to know phase I never really got going, and because of that I didn't really get into the group. So for the rest of those three years no one spoke to me, and on the rare occasions when I acually spoke I got ignored (well, the case was usually a short but awkward silence followed by everyone else going on as if I never spoke). The few friends I had from earlier classes had stopped calling during the summer between the Gymnasium and elementary school (note that our elementary school goes in three year cycles from the ages 7 to 15), so until I discovered web forums about one/one and a half year into the Gymnasium I had NO ONE to talk to. For the rest of the time I merely had no real life friends. After the Gymnasium I started university. I was lucky enought to go there with an old friend, so I had at least one person to talk to. He had two old class mates there too, who I slowly started talking to, so when my friend quit a year ago and started working I still had two pepole who talked to me and who saw me as part of their "group". They might not be the most exiting pepole, and we've never considered hanging out after school. I've allso started playing tabletop role playing games with my brother's playing group, who I've slowly gotten to know. I've allso attended a few house gatherings (I wouldn't call them parties, since it's basicly a bunch of friends sitting round a table talking and drinking beer). I wouldn't call them friends either, even though they're a nice bunch of pepole. As for girls. Well, I had a girl friend when I was 11. When she wanted a hug I ran. It lasted a weekend. That's me and girls, so far. After that I haven't even met someone, let along gotten to the point where I can say I like her. It's not because I don't want to, I just haven't met anyone. So, basicly, you're way ahead of me both when it comes to friends and when it comes to love. As for something to look forward to: well, I've spent the last five summers doing playing computer games. The only variation is my birthday, and that gets lamer every year (nowadays it's nothing but an excuse to get free stuff and eat good food. Not to mention cake.). So, to (once again) put things in prespective, if you're doing bad, then I'm doing worse! As for love (or things in general), I realized a long time ago that things will or won't happen in their own time. Either you'll find that special one, and then you will have worried for no reason. Or you won't find her, and then worrying won't do any good. You being sad about never makeing it happen won't make it happen any sooner. Acually, it'll probably make it happen LATER since you'll tense up when speaking to women and that will make you less attractive. Instead of being sad about what you don't have, you should be happy about what you DO have. You have improved socially, and that will help you big time now and later in your life. And, really, don't worry. Things will or will not happen, wether you worry about them or not. Instead, prepare yourself for what will happen, so at least you can say you did your best when the situations are over. Übereil
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Post by twoheadedragon on Apr 10, 2008 12:45:14 GMT
Thanks Ube, that's a nice example of making the most of what you have! BTW, where there's life, there's hope, so don't you give up either!
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Post by Ubereil on Apr 10, 2008 13:36:04 GMT
I haven't. I've just stopped holding my breath. Übereil
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Post by twoheadedragon on Apr 10, 2008 13:39:20 GMT
I'm breathing too, I just stopped breathing for quite awhile after I told the girl I was in love with her, but started breathing again after I finished crying like a baby! ;D
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Post by LaFille on Apr 11, 2008 4:07:13 GMT
That's cool, Ube. I remember how you were when I knew you first and it seems that you've advanced a long way since... I don't know how much of that shows in your outside life, but the way your attitude became more open/optimist/philosophist and independent here serves you well and makes you a lot more desirable (from what I can see, in any case).
I think that investing on perfecting ourselves until we feel happy of ourselves and proud of what we do is the best way to become really desirable socially (that is, not only attractive or not depending of our look/wit/interests); the rest flows much easier when it's not weighted down by stress and negative feelings.
Glad that you started breathing again, Ube & THD. ;D
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Post by twoheadedragon on Apr 11, 2008 4:09:51 GMT
Glad that you started breathing again, Ube & THD. ;D Thanks LaFille, I'm glad to be breathing so I can be on this Forum!
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Post by LaFille on Apr 11, 2008 4:18:03 GMT
(A hint to LaFille: footnotes would make this text way more readable. ) Well, nothing prevents you from doing of those easily without any special feature. ;D You only need to do like this: use asterixes and split your post by making a line* under your main text where you add your footnotes. You can even make the fonts smaller if you want**. _______________________________ *holding the [shift + minus symbol keys] **using the [size=1][/size] tags makes small text
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Post by Ubereil on Apr 11, 2008 8:32:21 GMT
But a footnote tag would make that easier! ;D
Übereil
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Post by Elliot Kane on Apr 11, 2008 12:22:15 GMT
Easier for you. Fille's busy with a ton of stuff already!
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Post by twoheadedragon on Apr 11, 2008 14:25:40 GMT
Yeah, as a man you ought to show more respect to all the dear women in the World who work so hard and don't get due recognition, only more complaints and an increased workload! Why, the ideal world would be... *COUGH, COUGH* sorry, my voice stopped, can't finish my speech... but just one hint, women deserve respect... here's a few more for you LaFille.
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Post by Ubereil on Apr 11, 2008 17:32:30 GMT
Showing women more respect than men? Discrimination, I say!
Übereil
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Post by twoheadedragon on Apr 12, 2008 4:47:31 GMT
Showing women more respect than men? Discrimination, I say! Übereil Not at all Ube, it's just a matter of a man's Honor.
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Post by Galadriel on Apr 12, 2008 7:58:38 GMT
Yeah, as a man you ought to show more respect to all the dear women in the World who work so hard and don't get due recognition, only more complaints and an increased workload! Why, the ideal world would be... *COUGH, COUGH* sorry, my voice stopped, can't finish my speech... but just one hint, women deserve respect... here's a few more for you LaFille. Wow THD, the woman that gets you is a very lucky girl. Not a lot of men show us the respect we deserve, but on the other hand, that goes both ways unfortunatly. What if everyone would start treating eachother with equal respect? So here's a flower for each and everyone of you, male or female, big or small, rich or poor
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Post by Ubereil on Apr 12, 2008 10:39:48 GMT
Showing women more respect than men? Discrimination, I say! Übereil Not at all Ube, it's just a matter of a man's Honor. The problem with that line of thinking is that it divides pepole in different groups, based on things like gender, "race" (well, I say we're all part of the human race, but you know what I mean by race) and social group. And since it's part of human nature to view yourself and your group as better than others, the step is dangerously close to things like ethnic cleansing and genoside. Therefore I try to view pepole as pepole, and treat them based on them, and not based on their gender, "race" or social group. I have a rule of thumb that is "generalization is bad". Übereil
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Post by twoheadedragon on Apr 12, 2008 16:11:45 GMT
Not at all Ube, it's just a matter of a man's Honor. The problem with that line of thinking is that it divides pepole in different groups, based on things like gender, "race" (well, I say we're all part of the human race, but you know what I mean by race) and social group. And since it's part of human nature to view yourself and your group as better than others, the step is dangerously close to things like ethnic cleansing and genoside. Therefore I try to view pepole as pepole, and treat them based on them, and not based on their gender, "race" or social group. I have a rule of thumb that is "generalization is bad". Übereil Never put yourself above other people, especially not your group above theirs! Generalization is bad only to a certain extent. For instance, we have to be gentlemen to all women, not just the young women who all the dickhe guys are after.
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Post by Ubereil on Apr 12, 2008 17:07:24 GMT
We have to be gentlemen to all pepole, not just all women. Übereil
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Post by twoheadedragon on Apr 13, 2008 8:10:55 GMT
We have to be gentlemen to all pepole, not just all women. Übereil Indeed. But then again, if we aren't gentlemen we become animals!
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Post by Galadriel on Apr 13, 2008 11:29:32 GMT
Treat everyone with the same amount of respect you would want to get for yourself.
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