End of a friendship

[peterh]

Aah...I'm drunk - and have edited the post ;D

Let's keep it to a minimun - no need otherwise.

I met Veronca (as you may remember) tonight and my friend Michael. Funnily they shared friends. Michael is a guy who just wants sex no matter what. I tried to tell him I've been in love with Veronica and really liked her. He refused to listen and decided to score with her - I left when it happened..

I'm kinda pissed. I thought Michael was a friend.And friend do not score with girls a mate has feelings for. But that IS him, sex over all. My best friend Piet, told me on the way home that I cannot trust him - Piet never did. Wish I had seen it sooner.

Too bad - he is on ignore and that's the way it is. Had he been a friend, he would have respected my feelings. But he did not even want to acknowledge them.

Good riddance to him, I say. I'll survive...I am the Beetle after all

[Gray Lensman]

Ouch, Peter! Really sorry to hear about that.

But yeah, doesn't much sound like a friend to me. Hope you're feeling okay, at least.

[Terrordar]

Peter, you need to stand up, and do something here.

I feel for you, but for god's sakes, we've heard about this so long. TELL her, go out there, bring up every SCRAP of self-confidence you've ever had, and just TELL her how you feel. Tell her the way you've felt for a while.

And you know what? If it doesn't work out, THATS LIFE. If it does, and you play your cards right, you could be a very happy man, whose no longer tortured on the inside about this anymore, and for once you'll feel some PEACE.

And one can't be friends if one is in love, and the other is not. So even right now, its not a friendship. Its one man desperately wishing he could tell the person he loves that he loves her, and the other one remaining oblivious.

You're just HURTING yourself Peter.

Of course, what do I know, right?

[metalliman98]

Sorry to hear about what happened Peter. That really sucks. :-(

I think you've said you realize nothing can ever happen between you and her, in a previous post, correct? Then my advice, as before, is to dissociate yourself from her and let yourself move on. Its true that, when it works out, a man and woman who are friends can become more than that and have a fantastic relationship. But how often does this happen? 1% or less of the time would be my guess. 99% of the time, its ends up with something like you just described, and the longer you associate with her, the more hurt you will expose yourself to. And none of us want to see you hurt anymore than you already have been.

Whatever your course of action, good luck my friend.

[Shan]

Peter

Move on with life and stop dwelling on Veronica. You don't need this type of girl. Even if the two of you ended up getting together, she would only end up hurting you.

She is not going to stick with one guy and she's proven that. If the two of you got together, she would just end up dumping you later for someone else. Take back your life and move on.

Maybe in the long run, your friend did you a favor.

[LaFille]

Feelings don't often obey to what the head says... maybe the best for you is to stop exposing yourself to such situations by going to see somewhere else, change your surroundings if you can't give up on her when she's around.
And regarding the situation, it seems that both the said friend and the girl can/want to give you what you'd wish from them so all you can do is either rectify your expectations or give up on them for the moment. Or not and be quite surely hurt again.

Anyway, I hope you're not going too bad and that you'll be able to take off some good from that mess.

[peterh]

Hey guys and gals.

Thanks for your support.

I'm a bit embarrased that I did post. I was very drunk and I'm beginning to suspect I either got an alcohol poising or someone put something in my beer. I was very sick until Sunday and I still have stomach cramps today - it just hasn't ended yet. Furthermore I was very aggressive in real life on friday - and I'm usually never aggressive as in wanting to beat people up. Maybe the circumstances can excuse that - but being sick even today - it makes absolutely no sense. So I got a bit of a scare - and do not plan on drinking mindlessly right away again.

And you are all correct. I somehow needed this break up - she did abandon me after almost begging me to come see her.
I don't need to be hurt anymore and that is the reality I have to face. I'm moving on and I do have other options, even if I look like Blue Beetle (and no, Lisa is not calculated into this ;D) - simple as that.

So again. Thanks and hopefully I won't fall for this crap again

[janggut]

Pete, at least u embarras yourself in front of people that care for u. as Shan said it - take back your life & enjoy it.

@ TD -> i'm surprised! bub, i totally agree with all u said. u're a wise man.