Post by mobbie on Apr 12, 2009 23:58:18 GMT
First off, a big hug to all you CCers who I haven't been staying in touch with that well lately, shame on me.
And now, on topic.
As some of you may know and some may not, our family has previously taken in a 16 year old girl, during summer 2008, who's familysituation had fared ill. Her relatives were fighting, her parents were seperating, her brother was in the army, and no1 cared for her the least, so she lived with us for 3 months.
Now, it's kind of like that again, though it's different.
As I'm short on things to do this sunday night, I'll share the story as is.
My family: My mom and non-biological dad, and myself are the only ones who live in the familyhouse, my siblings have all moved out and I'm the youngest.
My mom has, through her work as a psychiatrist, come in contact with a girl who was different from her other patients. This girl was in no way mentally ill. Her story is worse, to me.
Her parents are both dead, I do not know how, and I don't think I want to know. After becoming an orphant, she lived with her relatives, where she got abused, so she left them to live in a fosterhome, or what it's called in english. There, again, she got abused. This time by some older kid who had been put in the fosterhome unwillingly, and had some issues with someoen wanting to live there.
Almost out of places to run, she now turned to the Centre for ChildPsychiatry, where she met my mom.
As if things couldnt get any worse, the social secretary who is in charge of what will happen to the girl, is probably the most f***** up lady in sweden, and she wanted to lock her up in a sealed institute. Meaning, she'd be with the most miserable girls (it's a girl's only institute) in entire sweden, seeing them scream and cry. (I´ve visited a place like that in circumstances I wont go into right now, but believe me, it's not a happy place to be, if you weren't mentally ill before you step in, that won't matter in a day or two. You will act the same.)
My mother had all the way supported this girl and consuled her on what to do, and she even let her have a talk to my mothers lawyer, who's very enthusiastic about solving this. (In fact she said it's the worst thing she's heard of in her 60 years as a lawyer (yes, she's one old lady))
And months came and passed, after a total of 7 months since she had first stepped in to the Centre, all out of options and very insecure, the girl, named Ebba, sends an sms to my mother saying "Please, can't I just live at your place? I promise not to cause any trouble"
My mom wanted to help of course, but she said first she had to talk to the others in the family, so Ebba had to wait for a few more days.
My sister (yes my mother asked everyone in the family of course, not only us who lives here, we feel all would be concerned) replied instantly with a text msg saying
"Of course we take her in, it's our social responsibility."
My brother said something more in line with
"You cant keep on taking your work home, how are you going to handle if you take home every kid who needs help?"
My "father" said
"Well either I have an unhappy love, or I have a kiddo to deal with, it's an easy choice."
Then she asks me, as I was hard to reach I was the last to voice my oppinion.
"Again? Bigbrotheralized? Well, of course if she needs help and a place to stay this house is big enough for 8 families and we´re only 3 guys living here... I want a lil' sis, if not to help her it's more fun with someone here to talk to and do stuff."
Then this friday and saturday, she came out to visit. I was startled by how she could radiate such happiness even though she's been put through so much at such a young age. We talked and had a barbeque and then we jumped some trampoline, ebba and I atleast, and she was really energetic, but then sometimes when it all calmed down you could see such deep sadness in her eyes, when you could see she was thinking about something, most likely the future.
She's really cute and smart so I wish truely that this will be swept away and she can lead a happy life here in our house. She'll be moving in May, if everything goes as planned.
And mobbie becomes and elder brother... again... (I'm so good at it!)
And now, on topic.
As some of you may know and some may not, our family has previously taken in a 16 year old girl, during summer 2008, who's familysituation had fared ill. Her relatives were fighting, her parents were seperating, her brother was in the army, and no1 cared for her the least, so she lived with us for 3 months.
Now, it's kind of like that again, though it's different.
As I'm short on things to do this sunday night, I'll share the story as is.
My family: My mom and non-biological dad, and myself are the only ones who live in the familyhouse, my siblings have all moved out and I'm the youngest.
My mom has, through her work as a psychiatrist, come in contact with a girl who was different from her other patients. This girl was in no way mentally ill. Her story is worse, to me.
Her parents are both dead, I do not know how, and I don't think I want to know. After becoming an orphant, she lived with her relatives, where she got abused, so she left them to live in a fosterhome, or what it's called in english. There, again, she got abused. This time by some older kid who had been put in the fosterhome unwillingly, and had some issues with someoen wanting to live there.
Almost out of places to run, she now turned to the Centre for ChildPsychiatry, where she met my mom.
As if things couldnt get any worse, the social secretary who is in charge of what will happen to the girl, is probably the most f***** up lady in sweden, and she wanted to lock her up in a sealed institute. Meaning, she'd be with the most miserable girls (it's a girl's only institute) in entire sweden, seeing them scream and cry. (I´ve visited a place like that in circumstances I wont go into right now, but believe me, it's not a happy place to be, if you weren't mentally ill before you step in, that won't matter in a day or two. You will act the same.)
My mother had all the way supported this girl and consuled her on what to do, and she even let her have a talk to my mothers lawyer, who's very enthusiastic about solving this. (In fact she said it's the worst thing she's heard of in her 60 years as a lawyer (yes, she's one old lady))
And months came and passed, after a total of 7 months since she had first stepped in to the Centre, all out of options and very insecure, the girl, named Ebba, sends an sms to my mother saying "Please, can't I just live at your place? I promise not to cause any trouble"
My mom wanted to help of course, but she said first she had to talk to the others in the family, so Ebba had to wait for a few more days.
My sister (yes my mother asked everyone in the family of course, not only us who lives here, we feel all would be concerned) replied instantly with a text msg saying
"Of course we take her in, it's our social responsibility."
My brother said something more in line with
"You cant keep on taking your work home, how are you going to handle if you take home every kid who needs help?"
My "father" said
"Well either I have an unhappy love, or I have a kiddo to deal with, it's an easy choice."
Then she asks me, as I was hard to reach I was the last to voice my oppinion.
"Again? Bigbrotheralized? Well, of course if she needs help and a place to stay this house is big enough for 8 families and we´re only 3 guys living here... I want a lil' sis, if not to help her it's more fun with someone here to talk to and do stuff."
Then this friday and saturday, she came out to visit. I was startled by how she could radiate such happiness even though she's been put through so much at such a young age. We talked and had a barbeque and then we jumped some trampoline, ebba and I atleast, and she was really energetic, but then sometimes when it all calmed down you could see such deep sadness in her eyes, when you could see she was thinking about something, most likely the future.
She's really cute and smart so I wish truely that this will be swept away and she can lead a happy life here in our house. She'll be moving in May, if everything goes as planned.
And mobbie becomes and elder brother... again... (I'm so good at it!)
Hope the part of the way you make together will be fruitful; congrats! 
lol love you kylia 
;D
