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Post by Ubereil on Apr 3, 2007 10:15:58 GMT
Man, I must look like the [Censored] now to his friends. Btw, he blames me too that he doesn't have any friends (he just made contact with an old class girlfriend) but he was the antisocial one, I think that there is no question about who is the most social person of us, right?If they're not your friends too you should try and ignore that. You know you're right, and what they think of you doesn't change that. You are a good person, and what they think of you doesn't change that either. Übereil
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Post by peterh on Apr 3, 2007 11:34:51 GMT
You'll pull through this Kylia And you know you have the support of people here.
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Post by Terrordar on Apr 3, 2007 15:16:28 GMT
I loves to fight, you sure you wanna give up that relationship? Sounds like a dream deal ;D
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Post by Mea Culpa on Apr 3, 2007 18:01:13 GMT
Only 1 thing to say, We Love You Gal!
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Post by Shan on Apr 3, 2007 19:12:04 GMT
Ky, I know how hard you have tried to make your marriage work. It isn't easy to give up on something that you have worked so hard to make good. Sometimes, though, it is just time to call it quits and move on. If this is that time, you know we love you and will always be here for you no matter what. You stood beside me through some very rough times at Larian and I will never forget that. I know this won't be easy for you, and that there will be rough times but you're strong and you'll make. If you need me for anything, yell. I will be here for you that is what friends are for. Listen to Glance and the others who know. Never take anything for granted. Sometimes it can turn dirty in the end even if you think all is going to go smoothly. Don't take the chance on ending up with nothing. Love you,
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Post by Galadriel on Apr 4, 2007 21:10:59 GMT
Tomorrow we are both going to a notary to settle our divorce. This will cost me 372 € and that is only my half of the divorce. We have decided to keep it civiliased, there is no need to have a war going on, there is a little boy we have to think of. Because we have a house, and we don't wanna loose it, we are going to inform ourselves about how can keep the house. None of us is able to pay off the morgage. So we are trying to find a way to keep this place. We want to have the house set on our son's name, just to make sure he has a good start in his life. Anyway, save a little something for me incase you win the lottery ok? ;D
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Post by Shan on Apr 5, 2007 13:54:28 GMT
I hope all goes well today, Ky. I will be thinking about you and praying for you guys. Good luck.
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Post by Galadriel on Apr 5, 2007 18:06:42 GMT
Thx Shan
So we went to the notary and guess what, even a divorce with mutual agreement, or how do you call that, costs us 1250€. I don't know yet where to get half of that money, but I'll figure something out. As we also went for our morgage, the lady of the bank explained us that if one of us keep the house, we would be both in less money trouble. Selling the place would not give us any profit, since it's not finished and there is also a large fee if you sell your house within the first 3 years you bought it. He's gonna keep the house, we are gonna make a part of the house livable for me so I would rent that, I would have my own front door and everything I need. With the amount I pay for the rent, including electrciity and water, I can save some for when I move out. He will need the rent to be able to pay off the morgage. The house is already set on our son's name, so he would inheritate it later. We also agreed for costudy for our son, he would have the costudy (legalwise) but I can see my son as much as I like. I'm glad we have that on paper, now it's just a matter of time and money when things are definitly solved. So far the update, in case you're interested. Fingers crossed
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Post by Ubereil on Apr 5, 2007 19:40:42 GMT
How can a divorce cost money? Übereil
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Post by Alrik on Apr 5, 2007 19:51:16 GMT
I see you are very young, Übereil.
There are fees.
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Post by Galadriel on Apr 5, 2007 20:21:10 GMT
How can a divorce cost money? Übereil There is a lot of paperwork that needs to be done, to be officially correct. All our taxes, official papers and other important pieces need to be adjusted to our new status. Don't worry Ubs, you'll learn when you grow up ;D
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Post by Ubereil on Apr 5, 2007 20:48:52 GMT
How can a divorce cost money? Übereil There is a lot of paperwork that needs to be done, to be officially correct. All our taxes, official papers and other important pieces need to be adjusted to our new status. Don't worry Ubs, you'll learn when you grow up ;DI'm still curious how that can cost money . Übereil
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Post by ss on Apr 5, 2007 21:04:59 GMT
Ky, I'm sorry to read of the demise of your marriage..I would not wish a divorce on my worst enemy. As you are probably already aware, no one really wins in a divorce, even the most amicable ones. I, for one, would say that if there are no other men/women envolved, try, as has been stated, to get some counseling first. The biggest loser will be the child. He must me made to understand (and he will ask) that it is absolutely NOT HIS FAULT!!! - That it is between Mom and Dad, and no one else..Both must reinforce that he is loved by both... My oldest daughter was 12 when her mother and I divorced, and even when we both supported her (and the other children) that it had nothing to do with her, it was still hard on her for years.. I do not know about your laws, but here in the USA, it always works out that the one to file first is always on the offense, and usually wins more concessions, even it they are the cause... Most counselors will tell you that if you do finalize this, that you should not, under any circumstances, even date for at least a full year...to avoid the rebound effect... (I know -- already stated, but bears repeating.. ) Good luck gal, sad days are coming, but there is always light at the end of the tunnel... @ UBE....costs can be very high...in ANY legal matter, and especially divorse, if contested by the other party...only the lawyers win...
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Post by Galadriel on Apr 5, 2007 21:19:32 GMT
I, for one, would say that if there are no other men/women envolved, try, as has been stated, to get some counseling first. The biggest loser will be the child. He must me made to understand (and he will ask) that it is absolutely NOT HIS FAULT!!! - That it is between Mom and Dad, and no one else..Both must reinforce that he is loved by both... Don't worry, he knows we both love him and this is our fault alone, he understands that mom and dad had too many fights.I do not know about your laws, but here in the USA, it always works out that the one to file first is always on the offense, and usually wins more concessions, even it they are the cause... We both filed for divorce togheter, just to keep it as civilised as possible.Most counselors will tell you that if you do finalize this, that you should not, under any circumstances, even date for at least a full year...to avoid the rebound effect... (I know -- already stated, but bears repeating.. ) A new relationship is the last thing on my mind at the moment, I'm pretty sure that settle down again will take me at least a year.
Good luck gal, sad days are coming, but there is always light at the end of the tunnel... Thx for the support ss, lucky I'm a positive person, I always find the silver lining in every cloud
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Post by LaFille on Apr 5, 2007 23:48:37 GMT
It's good to hear that things stay relatively civilized and cooperative, Ky; I hope they be as soft as possible for all of you. The money question is always a hassle... But you'll make it through.
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