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Post by mobbie on Nov 2, 2009 17:25:00 GMT
I enjoy creating a discussion here because I think it both can help me find a way and it's nice to vent things like these on regular basis. I was paying flul attention till I stumbled on the word "habbit" and it reminded me... Just yesterday, was sitting having lunch, mom working in her office in the next room. In comes my sweet and comes up, hugs me and kisses me... Then she snapped and looked at me, realized what she did and said "Sorry... Habit.. I didn't even think..." (Note, it's been like 4 days or something till we started trying not being together..)
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Post by Ubereil on Nov 2, 2009 17:35:00 GMT
What did Mobbie have to do with this discussion again? ;D
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Post by mobbie on Nov 2, 2009 17:40:54 GMT
What did Mobbie have to do with this discussion again? ;D Übereil fuuuu hijacker xD
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Post by Elliot Kane on Nov 2, 2009 17:47:32 GMT
DPR - it's all an inertia thing. If you get into the habit of doing the stopping, the talking - all the things you mention - they eventually become automatic and instinctive. So you'll do them because they are the most natural thing in the world and you couldn't not. That's inertia, too.
In the same way that barriers can build between couples over time (destructive inertia) so they can vanish (And this IS useful to Mobs, I hope...).
To shift someone off the path that they fully expect their life will follow is hard, but you have to get them to see their life from a whole new angle, so that they change direction of their own accord. And to do that, they have to WANT to.
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Ube - your society is broken. For the rest, I think we agree, scarily...
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Post by Ubereil on Nov 2, 2009 18:30:52 GMT
Ube - your society is broken. If you say so... Übereil
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Post by badheroine on Nov 2, 2009 19:05:56 GMT
You know what..... after reading and re-reading everything that has been mentioned, all I can say to you Mob is take it one day at a time.... why rush? Time is on your side and as such you have it to "waste" effectively.
You guys have to do what is best suited to you. We can talk about this for the next 10 years and we might not get anywhere. All of us have said our pieces, thrown out advice, wisdom, past experiences both good and bad and G-d only knows what else. But what we can't do is tell you how you feel, see what you see or know what you know.
This is a decision of the heart, but unfortunately the head has to play some role as well. Don't be guided solely on what the outside world tells you. Guide yourself and the same applies to your lady friend.
We can all be here for you no matter what the outcome and I'm sure we will all be, but at the end of the day only you know how this can be resolved.
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Post by mobbie on Nov 2, 2009 19:12:30 GMT
@bh Yes this thread was not something I created to get a quick tutorial on what to do exactly... I just felt really down at the moment and pretty much needed to hear people's thoughts. It has been to great use and with upcoming updates from me and responses from you guys, it will keep being a reliable help in an emotionally stressed hour for me. Your words are not guaranteed to be even be taken into consideration, but I read all responses and they mean a lot to me, thanks really.
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Post by Elliot Kane on Nov 2, 2009 19:20:57 GMT
Chaos: more support than you could ever need! (Or want! ;D)
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Post by mobbie on Nov 2, 2009 19:27:29 GMT
I can only thank you... <3 all who take their time
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Post by badheroine on Nov 2, 2009 20:10:16 GMT
Mob - I understand what you are saying and Ell is right..... we will all do and be here for you as much as we can be.
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Post by mobbie on Nov 2, 2009 20:52:11 GMT
Means a lot <3
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Post by Dark Phoenix Rising on Nov 2, 2009 21:38:55 GMT
Spoke to wifey and her advice was to (paraphrased a little)
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Post by mobbie on Nov 2, 2009 22:06:06 GMT
@dpr (and perhaps even more, to his wife(y)) It is very much along the lines of my current intent... To cool it a little and to try talking her in on telling the oldies... I believe it's unhealthy not to talk about it, and it could prove useful, as she said, in more than one way. Thanks
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Post by badheroine on Nov 3, 2009 8:05:49 GMT
I sat contemplating this whole situation last night, because this whole thing has wedged itself into my thought processes!
DPR is right - parental units seem to know nothing whilst we are teenagers but once we have left our teenage years, they know everything we need to know and more about life. I wish you all the best with this one Mob.
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Post by janggut on Nov 3, 2009 8:34:40 GMT
this is for Ube. i'm sure he'll be intrigued by the mysteriousness of the women, especially their age.
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Post by janggut on Nov 3, 2009 8:45:19 GMT
@ mobbie -> i'd like to share with u this song from the Cure called There Is No If; Remember the first time I told you I love you - It was raining hard and you never heard - You sneezed! and I had to say it over "I said I love you" I said... you didn't say a word Just held your hands to my shining eyes And I watched as the rain ran through your fingers Held your hands to my shining eyes and smiled as you kissed me... "if you die" you said "so do i" you said... And it starts the day you make the sign "tell me I'm forever yours and you're forever mine Forever mine... " "if you die" you said "so do i" you said... And it starts the day you cross that line "swear I will always be yours and you'll always be mine You'll always be mine Always be mine... " Remember the last time I told you I love you - It was warm and safe in our perfect world - You yawned and I had to say it over "I said I love you" I said... you didn't say a word Just held your hands to your shining eyes And I watched as the tears ran through your fingers Held your hands to your shining eyes and cried... "if you die" you said "so do i" you said... But it ends the day you see how it is There is no always forever... just this... Just this... "if you die" you said "so do i" you said But it ends the day you understand There is no if... just and There is no if... just and There is no if... ******************************************* agree with DPR & BH -> take it 1 day at a time & enjoy each day as it comes. the best way to enjoy love at its best taste. think of the future too far ahead is like trying to enjoy an apple before it ripens & hope that it will taste its best. i've loved & lost & now on my own. i learn a valuable lesson; when it's yours, it'll be. if it's not, it won't ever be. a hard lesson, yeah, but don't waste time on pondering potential loss, rather on what u have right now - time with her. enjoy, mobbie, enjoy. @ DPR -> wise wife u have there. a real treasure.
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Post by Ubereil on Nov 3, 2009 8:49:40 GMT
Wow, thanks Jang! I'll join immediately! Übereil
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Post by mobbie on Nov 3, 2009 16:38:51 GMT
@jang wow someone found a way to hook up ubbie And it doesn't involve me tricking him out and getting him massively drunk, nailing a big sign saying "I'm RICH!!" to his forehead and having him march down the suburbs in search for someone desperate THIS IS GOOD NEWS Nails cost money! And the BOOZE! @jang#2 It's a beautiful song and quite appropriate... ~@all - Today I told her I think we need to talk... We will, in an hour or so when we´re all alone for the evening, parents gone. I wanna tell her everything smoothly without scaring her... When I did say we need to talk, she replied "about what" I said "about what we should do.." we were silent for 5 seconds or so, then she walked away saying "I should leave you alone". Then 10 minutes later I recieve a text msg saying "what did you want to say?" I just said it's hard to discuss over text msgs (believe me, I'd fail...) and that we should talk, so... Just waiting for it now..
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Post by Ubereil on Nov 3, 2009 17:15:54 GMT
@jang wow someone found a way to hook up ubbie And it doesn't involve me tricking him out and getting him massively drunk, nailing a big sign saying "I'm RICH!!" to his forehead and having him march down the suburbs in search for someone desperate THIS IS GOOD NEWS Nails cost money! And the BOOZE! Not to mention that the whole plan falls flat on it's face since I don't drink... ;D @jang#2 It's a beautiful song and quite appropriate... Of course it is, it's The Cure! If you haven't heard it I can send it to you. ~@all - Today I told her I think we need to talk... We will, in an hour or so when we´re all alone for the evening, parents gone. I wanna tell her everything smoothly without scaring her... When I did say we need to talk, she replied "about what" I said "about what we should do.." we were silent for 5 seconds or so, then she walked away saying "I should leave you alone". Then 10 minutes later I recieve a text msg saying "what did you want to say?" I just said it's hard to discuss over text msgs (believe me, I'd fail...) and that we should talk, so... Just waiting for it now.. IT'S A TRAP, GET OUT WHILE YOU STILL CAN! Übereil
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Post by mobbie on Nov 3, 2009 17:44:38 GMT
Not to mention that the whole plan falls flat on it's face since I don't drink... ;D ...Intentionally Of course it is, it's The Cure! If you haven't heard it I can send it to you. Of course I heard them ^^ They are awesuum
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